Wrestling of power

Sometimes, relationship is just like a wrestling of power between two people.

Normally, it starts out from a guy's sexual desire and eagerness to be with somebody to feel the warmth and get the attention. This is when the girl holds the power chips, simply because he is more eager than she is. She's young and she's got plenty of opportunities to get a guy she wants.

Once the relationship is established, the power suddenly flips to the guy side. He's got what he is after and the job is done. Over time, his charms grow and available choices of pretty and young girls loom in front of him. Undoubtedly, she's getting older and not an extraordinary head-turner as she once was. But that's not the point. The point is she's far more involved in and devoted to the relationship than he is.

He knows that. He feels the relationship is too secure for him to keep working on it, such that he even begins to sabotage it by chasing new girls for fun, or whatever other reasons. Even she smells the disloyalty, she tries her best to hold her tongue in the sulks...

She wants certainty from him, while he wants variety elsewhere. Relationships cannot be fostered unless the two people want the same thing.

For guys, perhaps getting him feel emotionally unsecured is the only way to get his attention, thus to make the relationship work. Grab the power chips and win back the battle. But how? ... Will it get to a point when you wake up one day and finally get fed up with this power-wrestling game?

How nice will it be if you would both cherish each other and stop playing this low-class game? Alas, wish is just a wish.